It made no impression on me at the time that plenty of guys far shorter than me were getting better results, or that many of the top instructors in the dating industry were well below average height.
I would think back to all the times I went out in college with my golf teammates. Oh, and that traumatic incident in 7th grade when I asked out my crush and got rejectedβ¦I was pretty sure that my height had something to do with it. The average husband in the United States is 5 to 6 inches taller than his wife and women say they are most satisfied with a man who is 8 inches taller. Tall men get more dates on dating apps and have more biological children. About half of women on online dating sites limit their searches to men their own height or above.
Men who are between 5 feet 2 inches and 5 feet 4 inches have fewer sex partners. Dating advice books are cropping up specifically for short men. Parents are giving their children dangerous hormonal therapies to increase their height. And more and more adults with closed growth plates are pursuing excruciating surgeries to get another couple inches. For one thing, I think all these studies actually tell us relatively little about the real world. Within minutes of logging on, girls are overwhelmed by dozens of messages from clueless guys.
With relatively little information to go on, height becomes a convenient way for girls to sift through the messages. I see little value in drawing definitive lessons on something like height based on the opinions of college chicks from Florida and Arizona, as if they have the same thought process as high class and intelligent women. In fact, several studies suggest that at least part of the female preference for height may have to do with other attributes such as athleticism and socioeconomic status that simply tend to be associated with height.
More importantly, general findings have almost no relevance to any individual guy who makes the decision to improve with girls. Finding dates is more like finding a fulfilling career. There are all sorts of reasons why you might not get any one particular job, but the economy generally is full of opportunities for people with all sorts of different skills. Short guysβ¦Ask yourselfβ¦Do you really want to give this "Gemini vegetarian" control over your happiness?
